Bill Copeland, a well respected author, once said “the trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” The truth is that in today’s society whereby instant communication is the norm with sites like Facebook, Hotmail and Twitter constantly vying for our attention, it can be challenging to sit down and assess what we want to achieve on a deeper level, let alone make time for those activities. In Tony Hiesh’s book, Delivering Happiness, he pin points ‘perceived progress’ as an essential component of our overall happiness and, as the field of positive psychology develops, this principle is becoming widely accepted.
So how do we discover what we want to achieve? A good place to start is with our dreams. Often our dreams are a reflection of our inner most desires as the very word dream implies it is an unobtainable fantasy, so we tend to feel safe to imagine what we may otherwise think of as impossible. If we question whether we are mostly interested in the activity or the fruits of that activity we can discern whether we have the motivation required to fulfill our dreams. For example, I may not love singing but still want to be a pop star, with all the fame and notoriety that involves, however, without the desire to sing it is unlikely I will succeed at becoming a chart-topping sensation. If the activity itself does not interest you but the results do, it may be best to stay loyal to your interests as your motivation will soon wane once you begin to engage in the activity. If, on the other hand, you are genuinely interested in the activity you have the necessary foundations to start setting your goals!
The process of making our dreams reality can be a very exciting and creative one. Essentially we are creating a map to get us from where we are now (Point A) to where we want to be (Point B). Though there is much advice surrounding the area of setting goals there is generally a consensus that all goals must be S.M.A.R.T. S.M.A.R.T. goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-scaled.
Next week we examine what S.M.A.R.T goals really are (and are not) and get into the nitty gritty of goal making!
Are you currently working towards goals? If anything was possible what would your biggest dream be? Please comment and share your experiences with our community to gain insight, encouragement and support.
- Spend ten minutes and write down your biggest dreams, the more excited and happy they make you feel the better!
- Spend another ten minutes and write down all of your interests and passions.
- Look at the two lists and see whether there are any matches between your dreams and your interests/passions. If there are matches this is a perfect starting point for a S.M.A.R.T. goal. If not, focus on your interests and passions and develop a dream from this list. We will be formulating a S.M.A.R.T. goal from your dream next week!
Following using psychology to transform my life, I founded Accessible Psychology to help empower others to live the life they long for. My journey is living testimony that no matter where you are, absolutely everyone can apply psychology in order to lead more fulfilling lives.
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