Monthly Archives: February 2015

Why you’ll benefit from reading your success journal

To keep motivation at an optimum, improve your confidence and give you an undeniable sense of progression and achievement it’s important to re-read your success journal regularly. For those of you that missed the post, a success journal is a journal that, well, lists your successes. If you’re lacking motivation at work, or with just about any activity, it’s a great exercise. Try to ensure your entries are dated, as specific as possible and list even the smallest of successes along with the more obvious big successes you encounter.

 

But once you’ve written one, why re-read it?

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Why acting as if makes all the difference

In the past I’ve often rolled my eyes at people who have suggested acting ‘as if’, as if it were so easy to just act, after all, wouldn’t we all be due an Oscar if that were the case? Whilst acting ‘as if’ may not be as easy as it sounds, it is extremely effective. Of course I believe in assertiveness and being authentic too, so I in no way advocate acting ‘as if’ something doesn’t bother you or ‘as if’ you are a comedian in an effort to conceal the real you. What I have found is that acting ‘as if’ is most effective when you are trying to overcome something. Should this grey area leave you feeling a little confused, I have listed the situations when acting ‘as if’ can be seriously advantageous.

 

  • Acting confident when you are nervous or shy
  • Acting calm when you are anxious (and using breathing exercises)
  • Acting assertive when you are naturally passive or aggressive

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Why creating a dream board means you’re more likely to achieve your goals

We’ve all heard about The Secret and the law of attraction, the notion that what you believe will manifest itself in your life. One of the most powerful (and fun, not to mention creative) ways to make the law of attraction work for you is to design your very own dream board, filled with picture clippings representing the goals you want to achieve. It makes your goals more real and, in terms of the law of attraction, makes the energy towards your goals more positive, meaning you are more likely to achieve them.

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Achieving Change – How to live the life you long for; Part Four

Picture courtesy of Openphoto

Picture courtesy of Openphoto

 

It is no exaggeration that Tony Robbins has mastered the science of change and self-empowerment. Keen to gain insight through Tony’s teachings I went to his Unleash The Power Within programme. Held over four days, Unleash The Power Within would help me to understand what motivated me, allow me to face my fears (often an obstacle to change) and change my life for the better. I completed my fire walk on the first day and the sense of achievement in having overcome the fear I felt was profound. What I didn’t expect was that in going to Unleash The Power Within I dealt with my biggest gear which had held me back – my fear of intimacy. Tony helped me to gain a crystal clear image of what this fear had cost me and as a result I was able to change my past behaviour by facing my fear (just as I had done in the fire walk) by telling a good friend that I liked him, something I otherwise would not have had the courage to do. If you want to face your fears and affect fundamental changes you want in your life I would recommend going to Unleash The Power Within, it truly is a once in a lifetime experience. Alternatively, Tony’s book Giant Steps reveals small changes we can all make that will lead to giant leaps forward in our quality of life.

 

Naturally when we make changes there will be set backs along the way but it is worth remembering that this is normal and does not equate to failing. When we realise we have gotten off track we simply need to revisit both the cost of not changing and the benefits of changing to boost our motivation, cement our resolve and review if we need to adapt our approach. After all, the more we practise something, the more likely it will become a habit and stick. It is also worth building in rewards for when you stick to your new changes, like going to the cinema or setting aside an evening off just for you. You could do this to celebrate your first, second or even six month anniversary since sticking to the changes you set yourself.

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Achieving Change – What to do When You Hit a Roadblock

Change is often a messy process. We are, after all, creatures of habit. But our habits can work for or against us. Once we instil a new habit and it becomes part of our daily routine, the majority of the hard work is behind us. The difficulty is that we often give up before we have given ourselves the best possible opportunity to change.

 

It’s now understood that it takes 66 days for a new habit to solidify, so be patient with the process and expect for your progress to have its ups and downs. Once you appreciate that you won’t effortlessly have a completely new routine you will ensure you persevere whilst trying to affect change.

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Achieving Change – Why Keeping a Success Journal Will Keep You Motivated

Keeping a success journal is one of the best ways to change the neural pathways in your brain to look for the positive and it is exceptionally good at reminding ourselves what we are doing well. All too often we seem to gloss over our successes and dismiss them as ‘to be expected’ but when we write down our successes, both small and big, we start to become conscious of the fact that we are actually performing better than we might otherwise think.

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Achieving Change – How to Rewire Your Brain for Happiness

For centuries it has been commonplace for people to focus on the negative and negate the positive. This innate tendency originates from our survival instincts when we needed to watch out for predators in the wilderness but it very rarely serves us in today’s relatively safe environment of everyday life. Although instinctive, all too often our negative bias ensures we remain gloomy and dissatisfied with life.

 

Reassuringly however it is in fact possible to strengthen the neural pathways in our brain to seek out the positive instead of the negative and by so doing we can achieve greater levels of contentment and happiness in our lives. The value of actively looking for the positive in every circumstance is immense – not only do we increase our gratitude but we also start to value things that otherwise may well have gone unnoticed.

 

By practising positivity we develop an even greater capacity to notice the positive which increases our happiness. As a result of looking for the positives in everyday we strengthen the neural pathways in our brains towards a positive bias, thereby making it easier and easier to be positive in future.

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Achieving Change – How to live the life you long for; Part Three

Picture courtesy of Openphoto

Picture courtesy of Openphoto

 

Now we know our values it is time to make our resolutions and goals. Usually resolutions and goals are confused for one another however it is useful to remember that resolutions are based on habits which we would like to adopt in our day to day lives whereas goals are our desired achievements with deadlines and are likely to be bigger in scale. Please read Augusts series ‘How to turn your dreams into reality’ for an in-depth look into discovering and creating meaningful goals.

 

Ok, so our values, resolutions and goals are all aligned. What next? More

How to Track Your Progress and Why a Reward System is Worth it

Coach.me is a fabulous mobile app where you can put in your daily goals and track your progress, it even has a paid for feature where you can join groups and receive coaching. If, like me, you respond better to being accountable to someone (think along the lines of a substitute slimming club but for any habits and goals) you could enrol one of your friends to be your accountability buddy!

 

My accountability buddy is one of my best friends who is also very goals driven and we Skype every week to update each other on what we did and didn’t manage to get done out of our daily resolutions (aka new habits). We then record each others progress and keep track of whether we are improving or stagnating.

 

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Why Keeping to Our Resolutions (aka New Habits) and Goals Improves Our Life Tenfold

Everyone that has tried to keep to a new habit or work towards a goal knows that it requires a huge amount of self discipline (stay tuned – self discipline is April’s hot topic). But, as Tony Robbins recommends, reminding ourselves of the cost of remaining the same and looking closely at the huge benefits change will allow us enables us to change with much more ease and execute more readily.

 

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