One of the best ways to tell if you are an authentic person is to look at what constitutes an authentic life, what authentic people generally don’t do and the questions to ask yourself which can reveal if you might benefit from being more authentic.
Authentic people generally do:
- Communicate their genuine feelings, thoughts, opinions and beliefs no matter who they are with
- Know their goals really well and avoid living by others goals for their lives
- Know what their own values are and what moral code they want to live by really well
- Prioritize what is important to them
- Are assertive and honest.. always, even to the extent of avoiding telling white lies (please read ‘Assertiveness: A Journey Worth Taking’ for a more in depth look into assertiveness)
Authentic people generally don’t:
- People please
- Have different personas depending on who they are with or project a false version of themselves
- Are dishonest
- Adopt others goals for their life
- Have thought about what their values and moral code is (please read ‘7 Steps To A Happier You Part One’ to discover how you can create your very own mission statement listing your values)
To discover whether you are authentic ask yourself the following questions:
- Do I have a clear idea what my goals are?
- Do I prioritize what is important to me?
- Do I have well defined values and a clear moral code I live by?
- Am I always assertive and diplomatically honest?
If you answered no to any of the questions then it’s possible you could be more authentic. Another important question to ask is if you people please – only you will know this but if you do have a tendency towards people pleasing it indicates that you could also be more authentic. Please read ‘Sick of Over-Extending Yourself? Learn How To Say No’ series for more on how to avoid people pleasing.
Do you consider yourself to be authentic? Have you discovered that you could be more authentic and if so, why? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, I’d love to hear from you.