If you follow Accessible Psychology you know that I used to be bullied for many years when I was younger. Though I have completely recovered from that time in my life the traumatic experience has negatively impacted my memory, as most trauma almost always does. One of the best ways I have found to overcome my bad memory is to keep a diary listing everything I want to remember, including appointments, to do lists and texting or calling friends. If you struggle to remember the finer details of your friends’ lives, take heart, you’re not alone and it certainly needn’t mean you don’t care! Thankfully I created what I now call ‘The Memory Game’ to remember what is important to my friends and it’s proven invaluable.
The Memory Game
Any time I call or see my friends and we catch up I make a point of writing down in my diary the dates important things are happening for them. Then I make a note to text, call or see them to find out how it went, thereby showing them I actively listen, take an interest in their lives and am invested in their happiness.
You can do this for almost any occasion, below are just a few of them:
- An interview
- The first day of a new job
- An important work meeting
- A social event they are excited about
- Buying a house, viewings, signing paperwork, etc
- Moving house
- A romantic date
- Throughout a breakup
- When they are next seeing someone they are having conflict with
- A vacation
- A family get together
Do you have any events that you could add to the list? Do you suffer with a bad memory too? Have you ever forgotten an important date for your friend? Do you think you will buy a diary for 2016? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, support and insight from our community, we’d love to hear from you.