One of the most kind things we can do for our friends is to be thoughtful towards them. For example, when one of my friends was really sad and having a hard time adjusting to living in America after moving from the UK I decided to put together a happiness gift pack, with ‘The Happiness Project’, ‘Happier at Home’, some pampering toiletries and a ‘5 Year Gratitude Journal’. Below are three ways that we can show thoughtfulness towards our friends.
Buy Meaningful Gifts
When ever I have been low or have had something in my life which was important to me I have been lucky enough to have friends who have shared in my joys and supported me through my pain. When I had my breakdown in 2009 two of my best friends visited me in the facility I was staying in and bought me treats – this was incredibly supportive and showed me that no matter what I was going through my friends were there for me. Likewise when I had one of my articles published in Cosmopolitan magazine South Africa another one of my best friends sent me flowers to congratulate me. It is these thoughtful acts which deeply impact and nourish friendships.
Text or call them on important dates
As I spoke about last week with the memory game (writing your friends important dates down in your diary) it shows thoughtfulness when we remember what is important to our friends. Take time to call or text when they have an important life event coming up, such as moving, an anniversary or even a new job.
Go out of your way to meet them
Often when we are stressed it may seem too much to meet with friends, even though this is when we need them most. If we go out of our way to meet our friends where they are during their tough times we can eliminate the burden of them expending effort that they don’t have and can listen to them, care for them and comfort them in their times of need. It may sound simple but when I was depressed and my friends came to see me it lifted me up more than they could ever have known at a time when I didn’t have the strength to go and see them.
How have you been thoughtful towards your friends in the past and how have your friends been thoughtful towards you? Would you add anything to these three behaviors? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, support and insight from our community, we’d love to hear from you.