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Last week we looked at behaviors and beliefs to help us build up our resilience, this week we discover the last fundamental steps in order to foster greater resilience.

 

Invest In Relationships

 

Almost all of the resilient people I know invest in their relationships with family and friends. They know that when tough times hit these are the people who will rally around and sustain you. It’s so important to nurture your relationships, it boosts your emotional health and ensures you have a strong support network you can call on no matter what you may be going through. For more on creating and maintaining deep nourishing friendships please read my article titled ‘Why Building Strong Friendships is Important for Our Health’.

 

Ask For Help

 

One of the things resilient people do really well is to ask for help when they are facing trials. They openly share the cause of their distress with their friends and family so they receive the support that they need. Such help and support is vital to anyone who is going through a rocky period and the strength it offers you will be indispensable in handling your troubles. Similarly, they seek out help in the form of therapy and mentors when they feel they need additional support and encouragement.

 

Be Brave and Have Courage

 

True bravery is not in the absence of fear but in conquering fear when it presents itself and that takes courage. Having the courage to confront what scares you will foster greater levels of inner strength, increasing your confidence that no matter what comes your way you will be able to deal with it.

 

 

Release Tension

 

Releasing tension will help you to maintain your equilibrium. There are so many ways you can release tension – here are just some of them:

 

  • Meditate
  • Go for a walk
  • Exercise
  • Visualize
  • Talk it through with a friend
  • Have a massage
  • Dance it off

 

Laugh Out Loud

 

This is probably one of the best ways of relieving tension but it’s so important that I decided to give it a section in its own right. Finding the comedy about dire situations is an invaluable life skill that will see you through almost anything. If you can’t find comedy amidst the tragedy then seek out other ways to laugh – watch sitcoms, go to comedy nights or even banter with friends.

 

Learn to Seek the Silver Lining

 

Recognize that the silver lining is in part the opportunity to learn from your mistakes. Once learnt you’ll be better equipped to deal with similar situations and may be able to avoid the circumstance recurring altogether.

 

Likewise, accepting that good can come from the most awful of situations is inspiring and gives us hope. Without having had my breakdown I wouldn’t be anywhere close to the person I am today, neither would I have the life I do. I am no longer depressed, my family dynamic has transformed and I have a great career which I love – none of which would have been possible if I hadn’t gone through what I did. Learn to seek the silver lining in life and you will always look back and smile.

 

With greater resilience comes unshakable confidence that no matter what happens you will be able to handle it with dignity and grace and emerge triumphant, navigating the rough tides of life with mastery.

 

Do you invest in your relationships and ask for help when you need it? Do you make a point of releasing tension and laughing out loud? Do you try and seek the silver lining in life? What has been your number one take away from this series on resilience? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.