We’ve all been there, surrounded by confident extroverts at a party, not quite knowing how to match their confidence but feeling as though you need to. Fear not, the answer is alarmingly simple! Ask questions and let them talk. Smile and ask some more. Before you know it they will be asking you questions in turn and hey presto, you are holding your own in conversation. If someone interjects, let them.


Don’t be afraid to voice your own opinion, even if it is different to theirs and give reasons for your perspective in a confident way whilst also allowing others room for their own differing opinions. Remember there is no wrong or right when it comes to opinions – just different perspectives – so remain true to who you are without any fear others may think you are wrong.


If they have a different perspective that’s ok, it’s not a big deal and, in many ways, they will probably admire you for being honest. Not only is this a courageous approach for those less confident but it is a sign of true confidence to voice differing opinions to big characters at a party – regardless of whether your stomach has left the room or not!


Do you find larger than life groups of confident extroverts in a party setting intimidating? Do you have your own tips for engaging with them? Can you tell us of a time when you held a conversation with a big group at a party? What did you do? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.