Malicious criticism usually takes the form of a planned and deliberate conversation and is easily enough exposed but what should you do when you receive an off the cuff put down? The tricky thing about put downs is that they often come by surprise and are only registered as put downs by the person on the receiving end after the fact. In future follow these simple steps to let the offender know what they said was not ok and you will not tolerate treatment of that nature moving forwards.
1. Say to the offender ‘Can you explain what you mean by that / when you said x, y, z?’
- Explain your thoughts and feelings ‘I think that was a rude and inconsiderate comment and it made me angry’.
- Explain what you are seeking ‘Please refrain from making comments to me of that nature in future’.
- If the other person is seeking to instigate conflict say ‘I am not willing to discuss this any further, I have made my thoughts clear’ and walk away.
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