Even the most modest people can suffer from their ego being damaged as a result of criticism and I can’t deny it was difficult to keep my ego in check when receiving criticism in the past. What helped me was remembering a few key things which reminded me that being defensive is often counter-productive. Please do bear in mind that being defensive is quite different to standing up for yourself, which I will go into in more depth later – please see below for a list of my ‘reminders’ that helped me receive criticism better.
- I am not perfect
- I make mistakes
- I can admit to my mistakes without it being equal to a failure
- I can learn from my mistakes and become better for it
- Whoever is criticizing me may be able to offer insights into ways by which I can develop and grow
- It is important to keep an open mind to different opinions to my own
However sometimes criticism may well be malicious and in the Monday series posts I will be revealing ways that we can expose malicious criticism for what it is using assertiveness techniques.
With all this in mind it is essential to know what our strengths are and have a firm grasp on what we do well. If once we evaluate the criticism with an open mind we still genuinely disagree with it, it is important to say so and why, backing this up with examples of when we have excelled in this area.
Can you recall a time when you received criticism? How did it make you feel? How did you react? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.