When we are hurting one of the most natural things is to turn inward and avoid social contact. It is in these moments that we may feel like we are a burden to those around us or that others would simply not understand. When we do this we isolate ourselves, further adding to our pain and causing the situation to get worse.

 

By turning towards friends and family we allow others to offer the emotional support we so desperately need, allowing us to feel understood by those we love. Seeking emotional support in this way, far from being weak, is in fact a very courageous and strong act. Indeed, those who are most resilient in life know when to seek such support, hence why they are more resilient.

 

When you are seeking those to confide in about your loss or hurt ensure you confide in those close to you who are empathetic rather than from the school of tough love. Whilst both types of people may mean well, when you are holding on following a loss, you need patient and compassionate characters who will understand your struggle in letting go and moving on.

 

Do you socially isolate yourself when you are hurting? Can you think of three people close to you who would be compassionate and patient with your journey? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.