Letting Go

Top Tips: Distraction from bitter sweet memories

 

Whilst it’s unhealthy to avoid addressing the pain of holding on to bitter-sweet memories, sometimes distraction from the pain is needed.

 

Please read Monday’s series posts for top tips on how to let go and move on in a lasting, sustainable way, but, in the meantime, I thought I would share with you some of the best ways to manage your pain in the short-term.

 

  • Talk to close friends and family (their emotional support will prove invaluable)
  • Read literature (this also helps develop empathy)
  • Go for a twenty minute walk (it’s been proven to lift mood)
  • Go to the movies or watch uplifting DVD’s
  • Watch TED Talks
  • Cuddle your pet (get those feel good hormones going)
  • Watch comedy (laughter is sometimes the best cure)

 

And to avoid…

 

  • Facebook or social media stalking
  • Looking at photos of them (unless they have passed away)
  • Looking at videos of them
  • Going to places which reminds you of them
  • Listening to music which reminds you of them
  • Watching movies which reminds you of them

 

Have you avoided your pain by seeking distractions? Are you ready to address the root cause of the pain and finally let go and move on by reading Monday’s posts this month? Have you ever tried these distraction techniques to ease the pain in the short-term? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.

The case for letting go and moving on (and why you’ll be thankful you did)

It sounds strange but in my experience one of the toughest parts of moving on is leaving the pain behind you. I found the pain I endured almost comforting because it was the only thing linking me to my bitter sweet memories of the past, and, obviously, the person those memories where shared with.

 

I am here to let you know that the benefits of letting go and moving on far far outweigh the benefits of hanging on.

 

Once I did move on a weight was lifted, I felt free. I had more energy, optimism, my enthusiasm soared and I was generally more engaged with life. For the first time in ages I saw all the directions my life could take, my passions re-emerged and I was more motivated and driven, looking to the future with a renewed sense of hope.

 

Of course in the midst of my pain if you had told me I would go on to live such a meaningful, happy and fulfilling life I would have dismissed it as impossible. By following the five steps outlined in Monday’s series posts you too can reap these rewards, however distant that reality might seem now.

 

Have you successfully navigated letting go and moving on? Are you now leading a happy and meaningful life? Do you have any words of encouragement for those who are finding difficulty letting go? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.

This Month’s Hot Topic is Letting Go and Moving On

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Photo courtesy of Shutterstock

Having struggled with letting go and moving on myself I know how hard and painful the process can be. This month we will explore how to let go and move on, whether you are mourning a past relationship, the loss of someone you love or even a more care free, younger self, who was in a different life stage.

 

Step by step, I will take you through how to:

 

  1. Accept the situation you are in and see it for what it is
  2. Socialize again
  3. Take up hobbies
  4. Create goals
  5. Imagine a happy, meaningful and fulfilling future

 

Begin looking to the future in hope with this month’s series on letting go and moving on.

 

Wishing you all the success and happiness you deserve,

 

x X x Jenny Leigh x X x

 

Have you ever struggled with letting go and moving on? How did you get through it? Are you still struggling to let go at the moment? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.

 

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