Last week we dealt with how to handle your narcissistic boss, co worker or friend. This week we examine what to do when your partner or family member is a narcissist, the two areas of your life where it is most difficult to be in relation with a narcissist.
When your partner is a narcissist
This is a tricky one. Narcissists are notoriously charismatic and charming and when their attention is on you, you feel like the center of the universe. They will stop at nothing to woo you and will pull out all sorts of grandiose romantic gestures to have you under their spell and captivated by their charms.
Why do they do this? Well, I’m glad you asked. They want to win you over so you will be intoxicated by them, shower them with adoration and place them on a pedestal – which ultimately feeds into their sense of superiority and entitlement. Actually, they often perceive that their status has increased after ‘conquering’ you because they only pursue people who are perceived by others as attractive, cool and desirable – this is known as the trophy syndrome. As you can see, nothing can be taken on face value when dealing with a narcissist as there is almost always an ulterior motive, however well hidden.