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An Authentic Life: High self-esteem – the trademark of an authentic person and how to harness it

When we think of an authentic person we naturally think of someone who knows what they want out of life, someone who knows who they are and is confident in themselves. It then follows that such a person would have a relatively high level of self-esteem. Oxford dictionaries online defines self-esteem as:

 

 “Confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect”

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An Authentic Life: Protecting your goals and priorities by using assertiveness

It is one of the most natural things in the world to want to avoid conflict. Often people think that when they express a difference of opinion or decline an invitation that conflict or upset will ensue and whilst that can sometimes be the case, most of the time it is an unfounded concern. The key is asserting yourself in such a way that you are considerate of others feelings whilst communicating what you need to.

 

As a rule, being assertive has four key steps, being:

 

  1. Acknowledge what the other person has said
  2. State the facts of the situation in unbiased language
  3. State the impact the situation has had on you
  4. Ask for what you want in future

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An Authentic Life: Setting Your OWN Priorities

If we want to lead truly authentic lives it then follows that we first need to be honest with ourselves. Honest about what we want for our lives (our goals) and honest about what is most important to us (our priorities).

 

When we are honest about what our priorities are we can then organize our time in such a way that it reflects what is most important to us. For example, I have declined a social engagement in favor of working on my writing, as that is what is most important to me. It’s worth mentioning that although I do prioritize writing, I also take time out to see friends, so that I have fun and avoid burn out.

 

If you find you have a tendency to people please and find it hard saying no (which you will need to do at times if you want a life that reflects your priorities instead of others) please read ‘Sick of over-extending yourself? Learn how to say no’.

 

Think of it a little like a three step process, being:

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Augusts Hot Topic: Authenticity

 

Starting from next Monday we have a new hot topic – authenticity!

 

Why go to all the effort of becoming your most authentic self? Here are just some of the benefits:

 

  1. Being accepted and loved for who you truly are
  2. Having a well developed strong identity and sense of self
  3. Having a high level of integrity due to being very honest
  4. Having a high level of self esteem
  5. Living in tune with your own goals, dreams and priorities
  6. This all culminates in a happier, more fulfilled and contented life!

 

As we explore what constitutes an authentic life and what steps we can take to achieve one we will look at:

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