confidence exersises

Confidence In Action: Train and Learn

Today’s task is to take a look at last week’s exercise where you listed a situation you lack confidence in.  Think of one example of how you can learn / train if needed and build up your experience in the relevant areas in order to foster more internal confidence with which to approach your situation in future.


When thinking of this, the following questions may be helpful:


  1. Can someone more experienced be your advisor or mentor?
  2. Are there professional courses you could take?
  3. Are there vocational courses you could take like assertiveness, hobby classes or skills based classes?
  4. Can you read about the situation or skills needed to better handle the situation, thereby learning?
  5. Can you create less scary situations whereby you can practice your new skills?


Confidence In Action: Assertiveness and Socializing

Today’s task is to take a look at last week’s exercise where you listed a situation you lack confidence in.  Read ‘Assertiveness; A Journey Worth Taking’ and give one example of how you can be more assertive in similar situations in future. Then plan a group meeting and practice assertiveness techniques to foster more internal confidence, which will inevitably help you with your situation in future.


Confidence In Action: Choose a confident mentor who is in your life to emulate

Mentors are wonderful things to have. When choosing a confidence mentor look for someone who exudes confidence and who ideally, is either extroverted or introverted like you. If this isn’t possible don’t worry but if you are introverted and your mentor extroverted it is worth bearing this in mind as confidence for you may look slightly different.


If they are a close friend you could ask them to be your mentor and explain that confidence is something you are actively working upon. Ask them how often they feel confident and how often they feel insecure – you might be surprised! Ask them how they act when they are insecure and if they have any tips for fostering greater external confidence. Then spend as much time with them as you can in group settings.


Confidence In Action: List a situation you lack confidence in at the moment and brainstorm!

Take five minutes today to list a situation you typically lack confidence in. Give one example of how you can…


  1. Prepare
  2. Be sincere and…
  3. Alter your body language (HINT: Open body language gestures)


…in order to foster more external confidence. Then practice doing these things for ten minutes, imagining how it will help you and visualizing its positive impact when the situation emerges in future.


Confidence In Action: List times when you have felt arrogant as opposed to confident

Remember a time when, on reflection, you think you were arrogant. Did you have an inflated sense of your abilities, your social or economic position or even your position within your company? What was the difference in behavior when compared to a time you simply felt confident?


Did you exhibit any of the traits listed in Mondays post? What warning signs were there that you can look out for in future that you are veering away from confidence into arrogance? Write these reflections and discoveries down and keep them handy – just the act of reflecting on your behavior in this way will help you to have an increased awareness of arrogance and help you avoid it in future.


Confidence In Action: Envisage Confidence

Describe how a confident you would feel. What would it look like? How would you act? What would your body language communicate and how? This exercise will help crystalize what you are working towards throughout this series and give you motivation to develop lasting confidence. Place what you write down somewhere accessible like on your phone or on a mirror to inspire you to continue working on your confidence levels.


Confidence In Action: List Insecure Behavior

This week I thought it would be useful for you to list the times when you have felt insecure, what did that look like for you? How did you behave? What was your body language communicating and how? In thinking about how you behave when you feel insecure and writing this down you will be able to identify when you are behaving in an insecure way and consequently, correct this more easily.


This exercise may sound simple and in many ways it is, however taking time to think about insecure behaviors will place you at a distinct advantage when developing lasting confidence as described in the Monday series posts.