Depressed? Why depression could be your biggest breakthrough yet!

Goodness knows I have had my fair share of depression. It is a dark and often very lonely place to be and when I was depressed myself I certainly recognized no redemptive features of it. My personal breakthrough came when I realized that it was within my control to change my life if it wasn’t serving me well and I didn’t like it. It was one of the biggest breakthroughs I ever had. I’m not for one second suggesting it was easy – I had to build my self-esteem back up, work on my recovery and then (and only then) change my life circumstances like filing for divorce and changing careers.


The reason depression can actually be a blessing in disguise is that once we realize it is telling us something important we can learn to listen to what it is trying to teach us. Essentially whenever anyone is depressed it is a sign that the conditions for our lives are no longer working for us and need to change. Of course there are exceptions, losing a parent or loved one can certainly send one into depression but it still serves as a gentle reminder that how we are grieving may not be entirely constructive.


It is important to emphasize that the very first thing anyone should do if they are depressed is seek help from a doctor and possibly go on medication and / or to therapy. The first step in the process of building your life back up following depression is to build your self-esteem, your social support network of close friends, and find your equilibrium again. Once you are feeling stronger you can delve into the cause of your depression and start to assess what you could possibly do differently which would make for a happier life.

Below I have listed some examples to get you thinking about what life conditions you may find helpful to change.


  • Are you friends toxic? It may be time to end the friendship
  • Do you have enough friendships? If not, join a meet up group!
  • Do you like where you live? If not, look for somewhere better that you can afford
  • Do you have any fulfilling hobbies? Try things out and find out what you are passionate about
  • Family issues? Consider seeing a therapist with your family to talk things through
  • Do you like your job? It may be time to investigate what other career paths you would find more fulfilling or ask for that pay rise or promotion


Do you suffer from depression? Do you currently have life conditions you would like to change? Have you thought about how you could change them? I’d love to hear from you so please comment below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community.

New ‘Best Websites’ Page Featuring The Webs Most Outstanding Psychology and Mental Health Sites


Hi All,


As you might have noticed there have been quite a few new additions here at Accessible Psychology and I’m particularly excited about my new ‘Best Websites’ page. If you or someone you know has been impacted by mental health it features charity websites like Mind and Rethink that are both highly informative and very supportive. Mind has an entire section on ‘helping someone else’ whilst Rethink offers invaluable practical advise on living with mental illness.


The Depression Alliance also provides an amazing support network for those suffering with depression, helping to ease the social isolation which can establish itself in the lives of those with the condition. Cruse Bereavement Care is also an exceptional website which offers superb advise for those dealing with loss and offers telephone, email and UK based face-to-face support.


Having relationship problems? Relates website offers support and counselling (UK based) to those wishing to improve their romantic relationships. For some people, they serve to transform their clients relationships and lives whilst for others Relate helps solve a specific problem and allow clients to move forward with more confidence and less anxiety.


The Samaritans have been providing free counselling for years through their amazing helpline and on my page there is a link to their website which provides the contact details of what, for many, can be a lifesaving service.


Problems nodding off at night? The National Sleep Foundation has a comprehensive site with information on sleep health, sleep problems and disorders, sleep tools and tips and even a search for a sleep professional service (US based).


Last but certainly and by no means last there is The Happiness Project – an entire site dedicated to making your life the happiest it can possibly be! I really cannot recommend this website highly enough. The blog on the homepage is well researched, humorous and insightful. The section dedicated to breaking bad habits and forming new positive ones is educational and inspired. The tips and quizzes section is fun and the quotes featured in this section are fantastic. Finally, if you are as inspired as I was to begin a happiness project of your very own, the downloads section is an absolute must with exactly the same tools Gretchen used now available for anyone to print up and fill out.


Look out for our section for young people too.


Please tell me how you found the sites and how they were helpful to you, I would absolutely love to hear from you.




x X x Jenny Leigh x X x

Further Reading Page Updated with Fabulous New Books!

The Further Reading page has just been updated with excellent new books on depression, goals, visualisation, law of attraction, time management and happiness. The page features each books description and all the details you need (such as ISBN numbers) to take note of which books you like best.

We even have links for you to see the Amazon listing and reviews! Enjoy!

Coming soon: Further Listening