How to Stop Living Life as if it Were a Spectator Sport – Mini Series; Part One

Do you ever feel as though life is passing you by and you are just going through the motions each day, surviving rather than walking into the future with a meaningful purpose?


One of the foundation blocks to fostering greater resilience is having clear goals and a purpose to work towards which will give you focus, direction and fulfilment, so that when tough times hit you have created a life of meaning and value – a life you want to fight to get back on track with!


In my article titled ‘How to Turn Your Dreams into Reality’ I look at how we can go from spectator to quarter back by investing just a little time to think about what we want out of life, then setting realistic and achievable goals that will take us towards our dreams for real.




“Bill Copeland, a well respected author, once said “the trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” The truth is that in today’s society whereby instant communication is the norm with sites like Facebook, Hotmail and Twitter constantly vying for our attention, it can be challenging to sit down and assess what we want to achieve on a deeper level, let alone make time for those activities.


In Tony Hsieh’s book, Delivering Happiness, he pin points ‘perceived progress’ as an essential component of our overall happiness and, as the field of positive psychology develops, this principle is becoming widely accepted.


So how do we discover what we want to achieve? A good place to start is with our dreams. Often our dreams are a reflection of our inner most desires as the very word dream implies it is an unobtainable fantasy, so we tend to feel safe to imagine what we may otherwise think of as impossible.


An Authentic Life: Identifying Your OWN Goals and Dreams

Have you ever studied something because you were told it was a sensible option? Have you ever pursued a career because the profession was in your family, or even taken up a hobby because everyone else was? You’re not alone. So many of us make decisions based upon others – this doesn’t have to be a bad thing as advice can be useful – but when your decision is solely based upon what others think you should do, you can end up living the life others want for you, as opposed to living the life you truly desire (a mark of any truly authentic life).