I thought I was in love once before meeting my now boyfriend but looking back I now know it wasn’t true love. How do I know? It wasn’t selfless, in many ways it felt like love, but it was immature – it wanted what it wanted. Since meeting my boyfriend, I can now see that the old cliché that true love is selfless really is true. I want him to be happy no matter what, and finding ways of making him happy brings me more happiness than I ever could have imagined.
When you want the person you love to be happy beyond anything else, it is a good indicator that you share the selfless love many seek. But what if you’re not quite there yet? Try to find ways of making your partner happy and see how happy it makes you in turn – it’s a great exercise and often develops the kind of selfless thinking true love inspires, at the very least you will put a smile on your partners face.