Lets face it, everyone has a different idea about how much personal time they like to spend away from their friends. Whilst socializing strengthens our resilience and builds up our resources in times of stress, it doesn’t mean that spending all your spare time with friends is necessary or even desirable.


Incidentally, if you are going through a period of stress, you will be less likely to want to see your friends. In this instance I would recommend you see them as much as possible – despite your inclination otherwise – as it will increase your resources which is essential for stress management.


Ultimately everyone has different comfort levels when it comes to socialising and what feels right for one friend may not for another. For example, your married friend may like to spend less time socializing and might not want to socialize in exactly the same way. In this case finding middle ground is key – perhaps socializing over a coffee would work well.