misconceptions about authenticity

How to Stop Worrying What People Think And Start Being Authentic in 6 Easy Steps Part Two

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Blocks to Authenticity:

 

There are several blocks to living an authentic life. The top three are worrying about what others think of us, an inability to say no due to the desire to people-please and the common concern that honesty is sometimes hurtful and unkind. But let’s break them down further and see how we can overcome these obstacles to authenticity.

 

1)  Worrying about what people think of you (and how to stop it)

 

Being worried about what other people will think of us and whether we will face rejection as a result of honestly expressing ourselves, is a very natural concern. Although this is a possibility, it is worth remembering that when we honestly and diplomatically express a difference of opinion, it can actually lead others to respect us more as a result of the integrity we have displayed. Furthermore, I would argue that those who reject us because we have a different opinion to them are quite controlling and narcissistic by nature, whereby their approval is conditional upon us conforming to their worldview – certainly not the type of friend I would want to seek out! Once you come to this realisation you too are likely to be much less worried about what people may or may not think about you when you express yourself honestly.

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The many misconceptions about authenticity (and why you need to know them)

How many times have you heard someone be rude and afterwards say they are just ‘keeping it real’? All too often people who are rude hide behind the guise that they are just being authentic or honest. In truth being sensitive to others feelings is in no way linked to being authentic. If you genuinely are thinking something negative about someone and want to be authentic by communicating your opinion there is ALWAYS a way to convey what you mean diplomatically so that you don’t hurt anyone!

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