A Detox For The Soul: How To Eradicate Gossip For A Lighter, Happier Existence Part Five

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Choosing To Focus On The Positive Continued…


Practice Gratitude


When I practice gratitude I can’t help but feel positive. It allows me to focus on all I have in life rather than defaulting to the things I might lack. It changes the glass from being half empty to half full.


A wonderful way to do this is to think of one thing you are grateful for each day. This might sound cliché but it really works. Soon you will be looking for things to be grateful for and before you know it, you’ll appreciate just how much you have in life.


It took me a while to get into this habit but now I feel grateful most days, having increased my sense of happiness in a profound way.


Why don’t you try thinking of something to be grateful for every day for thirty days? You have nothing to lose and it could bring you such joy and happiness.


Use Affirmations And Visualize


This is something I have done intermittently but am recommitting to do on a more regular basis. Phrase your affirmations in the present tense and try to say them ten times each day whilst looking in the mirror. Some popular affirmations are:


  • I love and accept my authentic self completely
  • I can do anything I set out to
  • Everything in my life is working for my ultimate good and as it should
  • I forgive all those that have wronged me in the past and let go of all negativity
  • I am achieving excellence
  • I have an abundance of energy and am totally healthy
  • I have a wealth of inner resources to conquer any and every challenge I face
  • My old habits have gone, my new, more healthy and empowering habits, have now taken root in my life


Another wonderful tool to boost positivity – which new research has suggested allows us to reach our goals faster – is to use visualization. The critical element which the research picked up on was that if we visualize achieving our goals our motivation decreases, however, if we visualize how we will go about achieving our goals, our motivation increases and we are likely to achieve them faster.


I visualize by listening to chill out music, with lit candles all around my room whilst looking at my dream board and planning how I will achieve my dreams.


Practice Hope For The Future And Optimism


I’ve often confused hope and optimism for the same thing. They are related, however there is a subtle difference. Whereas hope is grounded in an expectation and a desire for something to happen, optimism focuses on that thing turning out well. We need both to fully embrace positivity in our lives.


How to Avoid Problems by Integrating Play Part One

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Throughout the years I’ve had a turbulent relationship with play. Being an all or nothing type of person I’ve gone from ‘all play and no work’ in my twenties to ‘all work and no play’ in my thirties. In recent years my desire to progress in my career has led to a more ‘all work and no play’ approach, which has admittedly been fuelled by my perfectionism.


After some discussions with my therapist I realized that neither approach had served me very well. If I wanted to increase my resilience to stress when it arose and reduce the possibility of burn out, I needed to introduce more play into my life!


February’s New Hot Topic… Play!

In today’s hectic world all too often play is thought of as childish and indulgent but recent studies by Dr. Brown, founder of the National Institute for Play, have revealed that play leads to greater light-heartedness, empathy, flexibility, adaptiveness, optimism, hope for the future and produces a sense of belonging. Play even promotes our being open to new ideas and increases our creativity.


So this February join me in rediscovering a life full of both wonder and play – a life where obstacles are successfully tackled with our newly enhanced skills of flexibility and adaptiveness. A life which promotes well being and ultimately leads to our relationships flourishing as a result of greater empathy, optimism and hope.


I can’t wait to embark on this journey with you all!


Wishing you all the joy and happiness you deserve,


x X x Jenny x X x