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How finding your reason why will see you through tough times

One thing that was lacking during the toughest seasons of my life was my reason why. I lacked a clear incentive to recover beyond just wanting to feel better and so, without a clear idea of what I was recovering for, getting back on track was harder. Today I have many reasons why. My passion for creativity and writing and my goal to publish a book, my desire to excel in my career and one day buy a house and most important of all, my relationships with friends and family.

 

These reasons why have provided me with a greater level of determination to practice self care so that I avoid burn out and, when tough times have hit, have encouraged me to put all my energies into getting better through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, stress management, seeing friends and family and using positivity. Having a clear reason why, something that both inspires you and fills you with excitement for the future, will greatly increase your resilience when tough times hit, motivating you to move forwards towards a bright future.

 

Some common reasons why are:

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The Resilience Remedy; How to Bounce Back From Tough Times Fast Part One

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I’m a firm believer that when you need to learn a lesson, life throws challenges your way highlighting what you need to learn until you have no option but to learn it. Having been depressed since five because of bullying I was constantly dealing with challenges which, in later life, caused me to have a breakdown. It was as if life was trying to point me in the direction of the coping mechanisms I needed in order to live a happy, productive and meaningful life.

 

After each episode of depression I continuously failed to change my coping mechanisms and life strategy, so life just threw bigger and bigger challenges my way until my breakdown caused me to hit rock bottom and take stock of my life. And, as it turned out, rock bottom was the best thing to ever happen to me. It made me sit up and finally pay attention to life’s signs that how I was trying to cope wasn’t working. I got the help I needed by going to therapy which gave me invaluable life skills that would stay with me and steer me back on course to where I was meant to be.

 

Therapy provided me with strategies to monitor what caused my setbacks so I could effectively predict when I was most at risk and use my newfound skills to help prevent setbacks preemptively, or if that wasn’t possible, reduce both the severity and length of them. In short, therapy taught me resilience and how to bounce back from tough times fast.

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