Like anyone, I’ve had my angry moments. One of the things I learnt in treatment was that often our anger comes from when our rights have been violated. For example, I have the right to my own opinions and beliefs. Has anyone ever imposed their opinion on you, said you were wrong or foolish and made you angry? That’s because they violated your rights!
Being angry is often a strong indication that our rights are being violated and knowing our rights is critical if we are to protect ourselves against others abusing them whilst creating healthy boundaries for our lives.
Below is a list of rights we all have that can be protected if we assert ourselves in a non aggressive manner:
1) I have the right to state my own needs and set my own priorities as a person, independent from any roles that I may assume in my life.
2) I have the right to be treated with respect as an intelligent, capable and equal human being.
3) I have the right to express my feelings.
4) I have the right to express my opinions and values.
5) I have the right to say ‘no’ and ‘yes’ for myself.
6) I have the right to make mistakes and forgive myself.
7) I have the right to change my mind.
8) I have the right to say ‘I don’t understand’ and ask for more information.
9) I have the right to ask for what I want.
10) I have the right to decline responsibility for other peoples problems.
11) I have the right to deal with others without being dependent on them for approval.
If you would like to know about your rights and why they are important in depth please read my article titled ‘How to Free Yourself and Assert Your Rights’ and if you’d like to know more about creating healthy boundaries please read ‘Assertiveness: A Journey Worth Taking’.
So the next time you are angry ask yourself – is someone abusing your rights and crossing a personal boundary?
Did you know your rights? Can you recall a time when you got angry as a result of someone abusing your rights? In future do you plan to assert your rights and create healthy boundaries in a non aggressive way? I’d love to hear from you so please comment below to gain support, encouragement and insight from our community.