tough times

How to Stop Living Life as if it Were a Spectator Sport – Mini Series; Part Two

Do you ever feel as though life is passing you by and you are just going through the motions each day, surviving rather than walking into the future with a meaningful purpose?


One of the foundation blocks to fostering greater resilience is having clear goals and a purpose to work towards which will give you focus, direction and fulfilment, so that when tough times hit you have created a life of meaning and value – a life you want to fight to get back on track with!


In my article titled ‘How to Discover Your Passions and Reveal Your Life Purpose in 4 Easy Steps’ it talks of how discovering our passions ultimately lead to finding our life purpose…




“Step One – Passion vs. Purpose


Although passion and purpose are often used interchangeably, there are in fact two very different things.


The Number 1 Secret of The Emotionally Strong

What comes to mind when you think of the emotionally strong? Someone with superhuman ability, and no need for help, who excels during difficulty and can achieve almost anything – no matter what is happening around them?


Well, you might be surprised to learn that the most strong amongst us excel, not because they have superhuman strengths and can do it entirely by themselves, but because they recognize when they need help and support and seek it early on before the situation has had the opportunity to get any worse.


So why do so many of us resist seeking help and support when difficulty arises?


In reality there are many reasons why someone might shy away from asking or accepting help. Below are the top reasons and how they are often counter-productive for those going through hardship.


The Resilience Remedy; How to Bounce Back From Tough Times Fast Part One

Photo courtesy of Shutterstock

Photo courtesy of Shutterstock


I’m a firm believer that when you need to learn a lesson, life throws challenges your way highlighting what you need to learn until you have no option but to learn it. Having been depressed since five because of bullying I was constantly dealing with challenges which, in later life, caused me to have a breakdown. It was as if life was trying to point me in the direction of the coping mechanisms I needed in order to live a happy, productive and meaningful life.


After each episode of depression I continuously failed to change my coping mechanisms and life strategy, so life just threw bigger and bigger challenges my way until my breakdown caused me to hit rock bottom and take stock of my life. And, as it turned out, rock bottom was the best thing to ever happen to me. It made me sit up and finally pay attention to life’s signs that how I was trying to cope wasn’t working. I got the help I needed by going to therapy which gave me invaluable life skills that would stay with me and steer me back on course to where I was meant to be.


Therapy provided me with strategies to monitor what caused my setbacks so I could effectively predict when I was most at risk and use my newfound skills to help prevent setbacks preemptively, or if that wasn’t possible, reduce both the severity and length of them. In short, therapy taught me resilience and how to bounce back from tough times fast.