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Last week we explored why it is important to be happy and whole before entering into a relationship and looked at the warning signs of mentally and physically abusive relationships. This week we explore what an unhealthy relationship dynamic looks like and examine what unhealthy relationship behaviors there are and what we can do about them.


Unhealthy relationship dynamics


One of the first things I was taught in treatment was what an unhealthy relationship looks like. Although there are definite traits which contribute to a relationship being unhealthy (more on those later) there are several models which show unhealthy dynamics. Let’s look at each one and why they are so unhealthy.


Unhealthy Relationship Model 1

In this model we see two people who have so little contact that their shared life is very small. This is unhealthy for several reasons. We need a certain amount of quality time and inter-connectedness in our lives to romantically bond with someone. Without enough contact the people are unable to offer a healthy level of emotional and mental support to the other and if there is too little contact whether in person or by Skype, phone and text, the relationship is weaker as a consequence.