unhealthy relationship models

Romance In Action: List Your Unhealthy Relationship Behaviors and If You Have Been in Any of the Unhealthy Relationship Models

It’s very easy to get into any of the unhealthy relationship dynamics shown in the models of Monday’s post. Honestly assess whether you have been in any and how you came to enter into them. How did you experience them as unhealthy? What impact did the dynamic have upon the relationship?


Equally it’s important to assess which of the unhealthy relationship behaviors you have exhibited in the past. Do you have a pattern of exhibiting the same unhealthy behaviors? What draws you to exhibit these behaviors? What advantages do you think at the time they will give you? Once you understand the answers to these questions ask yourself, what were the disadvantages and damaging effects upon the relationship as a result of these behaviors? How could you avoid them in future?


Romance central; How to cultivate healthy intimate relationships and get the most out of your love life Part Two

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Last week we explored why it is important to be happy and whole before entering into a relationship and looked at the warning signs of mentally and physically abusive relationships. This week we explore what an unhealthy relationship dynamic looks like and examine what unhealthy relationship behaviors there are and what we can do about them.


Unhealthy relationship dynamics


One of the first things I was taught in treatment was what an unhealthy relationship looks like. Although there are definite traits which contribute to a relationship being unhealthy (more on those later) there are several models which show unhealthy dynamics. Let’s look at each one and why they are so unhealthy.


Unhealthy Relationship Model 1

In this model we see two people who have so little contact that their shared life is very small. This is unhealthy for several reasons. We need a certain amount of quality time and inter-connectedness in our lives to romantically bond with someone. Without enough contact the people are unable to offer a healthy level of emotional and mental support to the other and if there is too little contact whether in person or by Skype, phone and text, the relationship is weaker as a consequence.