The Number One Reason We Prevent Our Own Progress (and what you can do about it) Part Four

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Last week we examined how authenticity and accepting our weaknesses feeds into one another and how we could benefit from this. We also took a look at a nifty exercise that helped you to be more compassionate towards yourself when it comes to your weaknesses. This week we explore why accepting our weaknesses needn’t mean resigning yourself to them and how to continue improving, even overcoming them in time.


Why Accepting Your Weaknesses Doesn’t Mean Resigning Yourself to Them


Whilst it is important to fully accept our weaknesses this needn’t mean resigning yourself to them. I worked on my vanity by starting to go out without make up on and today I don’t place value upon myself based on my appearance.


Whilst it may sound like a contradiction to both accept your weaknesses and then work upon improving them, in fact it is quite the opposite. When we accept who we are completely, flaws and all, we are then in a perfect position to work on improving ourselves, because we are doing so from a self-compassionate and loving place – the ideal environment for genuine growth.


Though some may choose to berate themselves for their weaknesses with the aim of eradicating them, this is often ineffective because they are essentially rejecting themselves and creating self-loathing which psychologically creates a helpless mentality – needless to say this is not conducive to inspiring real growth.


How to Work Upon Improving Your Weaknesses


One of the best ways of improving in the area of our weaknesses is to analyze it a little. Don’t worry it’s easy enough to do, just follow the two simple steps below…


Sick of your nine to five? How to love what you do and get the most out of your career Part Three

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Last week we went through some simple exercises to assess if our current job is the right fit, this week we decipher what our ideal job looks like and how we can match these to our strengths and weaknesses.




I then set about listing my weaknesses. Knowing the list was for my eyes only I was as honest as I could possibly be and asked myself questions like ‘What do I struggle with?’ and ‘Which tasks take me longer than usual?’ I would encourage you to do this too, as this exercise allowed me to more accurately see and be aware of my limitations at present. The reason this is so handy to know as it might highlight future training needs for your ideal job or, if you have decided to stay in your role, it will point to areas where you would benefit from further development. Likewise, if you really don’t like certain things, evaluating your weaknesses will enable you to better recognize when a potential job is not the right fit for you.




Next I listed my strengths. I asked myself questions such as ‘What do I find easy?’, ‘What am I faster than others at?’ and ‘What comes naturally to me?’ This is no time to be modest – creating such a list will help you better define which jobs would naturally suit you whilst also helping you during the interview process.


Lastly I created a skills list which itemized all of my professional skills. This also helped me during interviews but more than that it made me recognize skills I had otherwise taken for granted.