How To Master The Number 1 Skill That All Successful People Share In 6 Simple Steps Part Two
Last week we discussed the value of knowing your goals and having a crystal clear picture of where you are headed, this week we look at steps two and three which help us foster greater levels of self discipline.
Step Two: Don’t Pay Any Attention to Enablers
The first stumbling block I came upon when trying to instill more self-discipline in my life was with my enablers. You probably know them, the friends who will do anything to encourage you to come out for ‘one drink’ or ‘go to the cinema’ at a moments notice.
Although socialising and having fun are very important, if you have a date with your diary to work on your goals you should try to stick to it whenever humanly possible. Treat it as if it were an appointment that you have to keep and this will help you resist outside temptation.
Ensure that you schedule in time to socialise too though, as all work and no play can lead to stress and burn out, please read ‘Tis The Season to be Stressed: How to Leave Stress Behind You For Good’ for a more in depth look at stress management. As a side note, integrating play will be featured as next Februarys hot topic!
Step Three: Set Yourself Up For Success
When I started trying to be more self-disciplined and began working towards my goals I set myself up for success by removing as many distractions and temptations as possible. When I was on a diet I avoided buying snacks in my weekly shop, I didn’t answer calls when I was in the middle of writing and I made sure I had answered my emails before setting down to work.
For you it may be removing the TV or radio from where you work on your goals whilst at home, or ensuring you get a computer app that limits time spent on social media sites like Facebook or Twitter. Whatever you can do to limit distractions and temptations is always a good thing.
Stay tuned, next Monday we look at arguably one of the most important steps in fostering self-discipline – making a commitment!
Do you have any enablers in your life? Have you already learnt to avoid paying them attention? If so what are your tips for sticking to your to do and daily goals list? How have you personally set yourself up for success? Which distractions and temptations have you managed to rid yourself of? Please share your thoughts in the comments below, I’d love to hear from you.
- Pre-empt enablers by explaining how much notice you need before going out, explaining that you are scheduling working on your goals and so need to book things in advance.
- Remove all distractions from where you work both at home and at work.
- Set yourself up for success by planning how you will avoid temptations – write it down so you don’t forget.
‘No Excuses: The Power of Self-Discipline’ By Brian Tracy
Following using psychology to transform my life, I founded Accessible Psychology to help empower others to live the life they long for. My journey is living testimony that no matter where you are, absolutely everyone can apply psychology in order to lead more fulfilling lives.
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