Why Negativity Harms Dreams And What To Do About It
I have to admit, I wasn’t always as positive and upbeat as I am now. I used to see the glass as half empty most, if not all, the time. What changed was that when I reached an all time low back in 2009 I had no choice but to accept that my pessimistic outlook was contributing to my depression and was very destructive for me. Although not everyone who is pessimistic becomes depressed, having a negative bias never enhances our life – in fact, quite the opposite!
Activities such as reading or watching the news, gossiping or even suspecting the worst outcome in situations leads us to have a cloudy outlook even though our life conditions may be perfectly sunny. Negativity can become such an ingrained habit that even when things are going well for us we treat the positive developments in our lives with suspicion and distrust, looking instead for what could go wrong.
The danger is that the more innately negative we are, the more likely we are setting ourselves up for negative outcomes. For example, if I wanted to start my own business and had a negative outlook, I might work really hard still but I would more than likely predict that the venture was unlikely to succeed, leading me to be less inclined to persevere and more inclined to give up sooner than say, an optimist would. It becomes a sort of self-fulfilling prophesy, a tragic playing out of our own created expectations. But can we ever really change from a negative to a positive bias? Ab-sol-utely!
After working really hard to cultivate a happier, more positive life, I discovered several habits that transformed my outlook so that I began to recognise the blessings in my life. I completely shifted from a negative bias to a positive one! These habits helped me foster an attitude of gratitude – allowing me to see the future as full of hope and opportunity.
As you may have read, I have listed some of these in my series post this past Monday but I have included some more as a bonus so that you have all the possible tools available to you to develop a positive disposition, leading to a better quality of life, one which is full of excitement for the future.
- Stop watching and reading news
- Stop complaining – totally
- Rather than complain about the problems of society, support worthwhile causes and feel good about making a positive contribution
- Read inspiring biographies
- Create a bucket list of activities you haven’t tried yet but have always wanted to – this will bring you joy and inject some fun into your life, increasing your quality of life whilst making you feel positive about the future
How do you top up your positivity when you are starting to feel negative? Do you have any tips of your own which have shifted you from a negative to a positive mindset? Have you tried out any of these tips before? How did they help you? I’d love to hear from you so please do comment below to gain encouragement, support and insight from our community.
Following using psychology to transform my life, I founded Accessible Psychology to help empower others to live the life they long for. My journey is living testimony that no matter where you are, absolutely everyone can apply psychology in order to lead more fulfilling lives.
Oh and I love Oprah, Marie Forleo, Tony Robbins and lovely people like you!