Feeling Spontaneous? Why It Pays To Be Flexible With Plans
I’ll never forget my holiday backpacking around Europe. My friend and I had only booked our travel and hostel stays – everything else was wide open. I remember exploring city parks in Madrid and meeting the locals, using sign language to fill in the gaps where language couldn’t. Singing on the beach by moonlight whilst we heard the waves crashing at a little seaside town in Portugal and watching as the darkened countryside passed us by at 1am when we were on a night train.
As I’ve grown older I have to admit I’ve become more structured with my plans. My diary enables me to be very organized and productive but sometimes I think I may have become too rigid, not allowing for the unexpected or spontaneous in life. So recently I’ve been reminding myself of that trip all those years ago and taking steps towards being more flexible (more on that later).
The good news is that the more we play, the more flexible and adaptive we become – it’s a sort of virtuous cycle. Having said this, by being more spontaneous we can develop more flexibility. For example, doing one random thing each week or by changing plans last minute.
Below are just a few of the ways we can instil more spontaneity into our lives, so we foster greater levels of adaptiveness and flexibility:
• Make last minute plans
• Keep free time in your schedule and do something completely random like the first ‘Time Out’ activity you see
• Choose a bucket list item at random to do one weekend you have no plans and want to do something fun
• Go to a fairground and go on all the rides
• Book time off work, set a budget and pick somewhere on the map to go for a long weekend or holiday (getting the first flight or train out would work too)
• Go and do an activity, see a show or go to an event which you wouldn’t ordinarily choose
Are you more structured or spontaneous? Do any of the ideas to be more spontaneous speak to you? Can you describe a time in your life when you did something spontaneous and how it made you feel? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.
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