Why Finding The Silver Lining Works Best For Resilience
Almost everyone goes through challenging, tough times. After having been negative in the past and viewing difficulty as having no redeeming qualities, to now being positive and seeking the silver lining, I can say that my approach now has infinitely helped my resilience. Indeed many who have faced adversity find this, that a large factor in building resilience is being able to see the positive side of life’s challenges.
When we seek to find the silver lining it helps us to not dwell on the negative, adds to our sense of life meaning and purpose (for example I believe my breakdown positively impacted the person I have become) and ultimately propels us forward. The silver lining of life’s trials has many forms, whether it be learning a life lesson, developing inner strength, developing character, changing the course of one’s life for the better, not taking life for granted, increasing intimacy with those we love or discovering who our true friends are in the first place.
For me, learning to seek the silver lining didn’t come naturally. It took a lot of conditioning to be positive to begin to recognize the benefits of life’s trials. Here are some soul seeking questions I asked myself so I could better understand the benefits to the challenges I experienced, I hope they will enable you to see some positives amongst the pain, however small.
- Has this challenge taught me anything? If so, what?
- How can I use this challenge to develop my inner strength?
- How can my character be positively impacted from this experience?
- How can I use this challenge as an opportunity to positively change the trajectory of my life?
- How can this I use this challenge to change my perspective on life for the better?
- How can I use this challenge to develop deeper intimacy and closeness to those I love?
What are the redeeming qualities to challenges you have faced in the past? Do you also find it difficult to see the silver lining, as I did? How do you think seeing the silver lining will benefit you generally and in terms of your resilience? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.
Following using psychology to transform my life, I founded Accessible Psychology to help empower others to live the life they long for. My journey is living testimony that no matter where you are, absolutely everyone can apply psychology in order to lead more fulfilling lives.
Oh and I love Oprah, Marie Forleo, Tony Robbins and lovely people like you!