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How To Stop Being A Spectator; Mini Series Part One

Do you ever feel as though life is passing you by and you are just going through the motions each day, surviving rather than walking into the future with a meaningful purpose?


One of the foundation blocks to fostering greater resilience is having clear goals and a purpose to work towards which will give you focus, direction and fulfillment, so that when tough times hit you have created a life of meaning and value – a life you want to fight to get back on track with!


In my article titled ‘How to Turn Your Dreams into Reality’ I look at how we can go from spectator to quarter back by investing just a little time to think about what we want out of life, then setting realistic and achievable goals that will take us towards our dreams for real.




“Bill Copeland, a well respected author, once said “the trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” The truth is that in today’s society whereby instant communication is the norm with sites like Facebook, Hotmail and Twitter constantly vying for our attention, it can be challenging to sit down and assess what we want to achieve on a deeper level, let alone make time for those activities.


In Tony Hsieh’s book, Delivering Happiness, he pin points ‘perceived progress’ as an essential component of our overall happiness and, as the field of positive psychology develops, this principle is becoming widely accepted.


So how do we discover what we want to achieve? A good place to start is with our dreams. Often our dreams are a reflection of our inner most desires as the very word dream implies it is an unobtainable fantasy, so we tend to feel safe to imagine what we may otherwise think of as impossible.


If we question whether we are mostly interested in the activity or the fruits of that activity we can discern whether we have the motivation required to fulfill our dreams. For example, I may not love singing but still want to be a pop star, with all the fame and notoriety that involves, however, without the desire to sing it is unlikely I will succeed at becoming a chart-topping sensation. If the activity itself does not interest you but the results do, it may be best to stay loyal to your interests as your motivation will soon wane once you begin to engage in the activity. If, on the other hand, you are genuinely interested in the activity you have the necessary foundations to start setting your goals!


The process of making our dreams reality can be a very exciting and creative one. Essentially we are creating a map to get us from where we are now (Point A) to where we want to be (Point B). Though there is much advice surrounding the area of setting goals there is generally a consensus that all goals must be S.M.A.R.T.


S.M.A.R.T. goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timescaled.”


This needn’t mean thinking small – just being realistic so you are aware of and prepared for the hard work and time involved in realizing your goal.


So if you feel like life is passing you by without your consent, take back control, creating a life that inspires, motivates and excites you, thereby increasing your resilience by boosting your emotional resources.


Have you ever created goals? What have you always wanted to achieve? What would life look like if you realized your dreams? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.

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