On the surface bravery and resilience may not seem to have much in common. Does it not follow though, that having the courage to face scary situations will inevitably make you stronger? In my experience consistently facing our fears makes us stronger and more confident, so that when tough times hit, we know we will have more experience handling tough situations, thereby increasing our resilience.
But how do we consistently face what scares us? Below are some of my top tips for getting started on facing our fears.
- List activities you are scared of e.g. driving, cycling, conflict, heights
- List two ways to face your fear for each activity, one low fear option, one medium fear option and one high fear option, e.g.
- Driving – practicing with someone in the car with you (low fear), driving in rush hour with someone in the car (medium fear) and driving solo (high fear)
- Cycling – cycling in a park with cycle paths (low fear), cycling in rough terrain (medium fear) and cycling on the road (high fear)
- Conflict – asserting yourself over something small (low fear), bringing up a put down and asserting yourself to the person who said it (medium fear) and asserting yourself over something important (high fear)
- Heights – going up steps with holes in them (low fear), going to the top of a tall building and looking at the view (medium fear) and skydiving (high fear)
- Select your most manageable fear and commit to doing the low fear activity for that fear until you are more comfortable, then challenge yourself to do the medium fear activity until you are able to manage the high fear activity comfortably.
- Do this process for each of your most significant fears
- List things that would be out of your comfort zone eg learning to swim or a new language and challenge yourself to do broaden your skill set by developing these abilities
Do you try to face your fears? Do you agree that there is a link between courage and resilience? What are you most afraid of? Please share your thoughts in the comments below to gain encouragement, insight and support from our community, we’d love to hear from you.
Following using psychology to transform my life, I founded Accessible Psychology to help empower others to live the life they long for. My journey is living testimony that no matter where you are, absolutely everyone can apply psychology in order to lead more fulfilling lives.
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